Divorce

Hi korang!!! Demm I sure took a very long time to post again. Gosh, I didn't notice it was such a very long time ago. It's been years. Who would have known that I would still be here in this world. Thank you Allah for giving me this chance again. The ability to see clearly again. When I started this blog, my vision was actually blurry and it was hard for me to see for 2 long years.

I am starting my writing again with a very hard topic. Divorce. Yes, me and lil hooty's dad have been divorced for a year plus now and he is getting married with someone new in a just a couple of days. I pray for his happiness this time around. Hahahaha don't worry we are friends still. It's just not meant to be for us. Accepted it with an open heart. By the way, I learned a lot from this I don't want to say a failed marriage, I would rather say a nice try marriage. 😜

The one thing that I learn which is the most important thing in a marriage is to be you partner's BFF and to want to make each other happy. Once you lose the willingness to make your partner happy, that is the moment you just lost it. Yes, I know it is not that easy cause I have seen so many different kinds of relationship in marriages and sometimes many of us think that as long as the two of us can make it no matter what happens that is good enough. Or I have also heard that one tip to a successful marriage or any kind of relationship is to lower your expectations. Demmm it's not true. It's one hurtful way of living actually. Maybe to some its enough but I have always wanted more, a really nice relationship with my partner. 

But if you think it's not important to have a BFF as your partner and you are not willing to find another one because you are ok with this one, don't ever live with bitterness inside you. It would eat you up. Trust me on this. Not just through my own personal life experiences but also from what I have seen in others' lives too. When you made that choice, to stay or to split you better live with it happily. No, don't ever say you didn't have any choice cause that is just a way of you making excuses. Please learn to live happily, please please please. I always wish that nobody in this world would feel any sorrow, would feel any sort of pain, be it physically or emotionally cause it sucks and it sucks big time when you are in pain. But I guess this is not the place for humans to not feel any pain. Ini dunia tempat meninggal, bukan tempat tinggal (heard this from radio from an ustaz) hahaha.

Ok, back to the topic. The best way to have a happy relationship to me personally in my opinion and also through my observation is to always want to meet your partner's expectations and work really hard towards meeting them. And it must not be one sided, it needs to be mutual. Korang mesti fikir kan kalau dapat pasangan yg banyak karenah tu macam mana? Matila kan? Tapi kan korang, kalau kita sayang kat seseorang tu mesti kita tak demand banyak2 kan? Kita akan learn to be less selfish sebab kita sayang dia. Kita akan belajar untuk jadi ikhlas. Yes, ikhlas is the right word. Not just to our partners, this applies to everyone in our lives, mak ke ayah ke anak2 ke sahabat ke. It's not easy but I'm sure it's not that hard either.

One of the things I want to be in this life is to be a nice person. Itu cita2 I tau. 😂 This journey yang Allah made me go through I know it's because He wants me to a better person. Let's be happy guys no matter what this world made us go through. There are ways to be happy. Learn how, meet the right people. WE CAN DO THIS! Just reach out and have the willingness to change. Good luck guys.